Watch This If You’re Struggling With Your Self-Worth
– [Lily] Hey, Psych2Goers, and welcome to another video. Thank you all so much for the love and support
that you’ve given us, enabling us to make
yet another exploration into everyday psychology. So let’s begin. Loving yourself may sound simple, but we all know how hard it is. Sometimes it can be a roller coaster ride between being happy with yourself and wishing you could change. There are so many things that
affect your image of yourself and some of them may not be good. Things such as the media set
false expectations and ideals. It can be a long journey
to accept this, but it’s worth it.
We made this video to remind you that you should never
give up on loving yourself because you deserve it,
and you’re worth it. So here are 12 things that do
not determine your self-worth. Number one, your achievements. Can you relate to loving yourself so much when something goes well, but the second something goes wrong, your self-worth immediately
takes the plunge? Whether it’s your grades,
your job, or a sport, it’s easy to base yourself
worth on what you accomplish, but how much you’re worth does not depend on your achievements, especially when it comes to competitions, you can’t control your competitors so you don’t need to blame yourself when things don’t go your way. You are more than just a bullet point list of all of your accomplishments. You’re a complex person
with a personality, hobbies, and so much more than your achievements.
And it all makes you worth it. Number two, your income and job. Are you second-guessing your career? Do you often think of switching jobs? While your job plays a big
part in your lifestyle, it does not determine your worth. People who have less money
aren’t lesser than others as a society and the
media sometimes portray. Your job and income are sometimes the results
of your situation. There are so many factors
that influence them, like location, the
economy, and competition. So they aren’t a
reflection of who you are. Number three, your childhood. Do you avoid thinking
about your childhood? Do the memories make you uncomfortable? Your childhood may shape
a lot of things about you, but it does not determine your worth.
It’s a phrase well on its way out and you mustn’t let it overwhelm you. Your rough childhood does
not define who you are. After all, you have no control
over who your parents are and you’re not responsible
for their choices. It may take some time to accept this, but your past does not define you. Number four is your level of education. Much like your income, your level of education is also the result of so many factors. One of the biggest factors
when it comes to deciding whether to go to college and where is how much money your family has. You can’t change how much
money your family has or the location of the
schools you wanna go to.
Therefore, you don’t need to feel bad if you don’t have a
higher level of education, it doesn’t mean you’re less intelligent or worth less than those who do. Number five, how other
people view and treat you. Do you constantly stress
about how others see you? Are you constantly trying to
live up to their standards? Other people have no way of
knowing who you truly are. While family and friends
may have a good idea of it, only you fully know yourself. Knowing this, your self-worth isn’t based upon others’ limited and
sometimes biased opinions of you. You cannot control what
other people think, nor how they act. Similarly, don’t base your value upon something completely up to others. Trying to please others
will ultimately lead you to be miserable so try not to stress yourself out with other people’s opinions,
even if it is difficult. Number six, other people’s achievements. Do you compare your
achievements to other people’s? It’s okay because everyone
does that occasionally. And it’s so easy to
look at what you’ve done and compare it to someone
else’s achievements, especially when the
internet gives you access to everyone’s amazing lives.
It may be hard to internalize, but what other people
do, doesn’t define you. You can’t control others so the only thing you
can do is try your best. Regardless of the result,
trying your best is enough. After all, everyone is different with varying skill sets and experiences so it’s no use comparing two
unique people. Number seven, your appearance. Are you unhappy with some
physical features of yours? Is there anything you
wish you could change about your appearance? Chances are the answer is yes. Almost everyone wants
what someone else has, which is the sad truth, especially living in today’s society, it can be so easy to compare
yourself to other people and all the gorgeous models on TV.
But try to remember
that what you look like doesn’t determine how much you’re worth. You’ve probably heard it before, and we know how hard it is
to accept and internalize, but it’s true. You don’t need to feel bad
. You might not look the way that people on the TV do because everyone is beautiful
in their unique way. Number eight, your relationship status. Are you still looking for the one? But it seems like everyone
you know is getting hitched. Nowadays, there’s so much pressure to have a significant other and a picture-perfect relationship. It can feel as if you constantly
need to be pursuing someone out of fear of being
desperate, lonely, or single. However, there’s nothing
wrong with being single, it doesn’t make you less of a person because it means you’re taking more time to focus on yourself
and what you wanna do. You will only go for
it when it feels right. While a relationship may be nice, it’s not something you
need to have to be valued. Nine, the number of friends you have. Do you value quantity over
quality when it comes to friends? Or is it difficult for you to keep up with your circle of friends? Having more friends doesn’t matter what
kind of person you are.
If you only have a few it doesn’t mean you’re
not sociable or kind, but it means you have a
specific taste in people, which isn’t a bad thing. You’re invested in finding friends who understand and care for you. On the other hand, having more friends
doesn’t mean you’re shallow and only interested in popularity, it means that you’re friendly
and open to new people. The number of friends you have doesn’t say anything about your worth, rather, it’s the quality of your friends that matters. 10, your social media status. Are you an avid scroller? Do you post on social media
habitually or occasionally? With the amount of
emphasis on social media, the world seems to revolve
around how many likes you get.
There is so much pressure to have a picture-perfect
aesthetically pleasing life. However, your worth is not measured by how many people like your posts. Social media is for
sharing parts of your life and forming connections with people. It’s allowed, getting likes
may give you satisfaction, but it doesn’t determine your self-worth. Social media should be fun and uplifting, not a tool to gain validation. You are valid and worthy regardless of your social media status. Number 11, your age. Both old and young people are
often judged due to their age. People may think all young
people are reckless and selfish, while all older people have
their whole lives figured out. But your age doesn’t
control your personality, hobbies, likes, dislikes and so much more. It’s not a reflection of who you are so it doesn’t determine your worth. After all, ♪ Age ain’t nothing but a number ♪ Number 12, your decision to have children. There’s a lot of societal
pressure to have children to contribute to society. But having children is
completely your own decision. Not having children doesn’t
make you less worthy than others who do because it’s a major decision
that affects you most of all, so it should be up to you.
Remember your decision is
valid and valued either way. In the end, you’re the only one who determines your self-worth. Cliche, but it’s true. Not anyone or anything else, whether it be money, family, or friends. It may be hard, but just try to remember that you are more than any single aspect. We hope we were able to give you insight into some of the things that you shouldn’t base your worth on. Do you use any of these things
to measure your self-worth? If so, that’s okay, we’ve
all been there before and we’re here for you. Leave a comment down below and share your experiences
and thoughts you have as well. If you find this video helpful, be sure to hit the like button and share it with those out there still struggling with their self-worth. Don’t forget to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification
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