Cómo conocer a alguien en 30 segundos | Micaela Amore | TEDxRiodelaPlata
Translator: Gisela Giardino
Reviewer: Sebastian Betti A few days ago, I asked my mom how deep she thought
she could get to know a person through their social networks
in just 30 seconds. Very little, she told me. And being the way I am,
I posed a challenge to her to prove this. If I got to know at least 10 things
about a person in those 30 seconds, I would eat the only cream puff pastry
left in the fridge. You can imagine my excitement
when she took it on. I set the stopwatch
and I went straight to Instagram.
I typed a random letter and clicked
on the first profile that showed up. I began stalking. I started to see every single thing
that person had published to date. It turns out she was a girl
who, about a month ago, had uploaded a photo of candles
with the number 18. There were a lot of people behind this: family, friends, everyone
singing Happy Birthday.
So I assumed she was
a very friendly person. Among her publications
were some artworks of Van Gogh. And I said, “That’s it,
this girl loves art.” Which I later confirmed
with some photos in which she appeared painting. So I kept scrolling down, going down, and I discovered that her boyfriend today
was her best friend before. That she is a trans girl,
she graduated from school last year, and she is now studying graphic design.
In between, I could also see
that she is a very healthy person, who plays the ukulele and is eco-friendly. That means she is very respectful
of the environment. By the time I gathered these 10 things,
28 seconds had passed. My mom was shocked. She could not believe
I could get to know a person like that, from social networks. People indeed choose
what they show on social networks. Because it’s there, it doesn’t mean
it’s something 100 percent real. But yet, I think that
what you choose to publish still shows who you are
and the way you want to be. I think that today,
there’s a fundamentally different way to get to know other people compared to how it was a few years ago.
In the past, everything I got to know
about this girl in 28 seconds could have taken me months. To move from the general idea
of that person into the details. Today, thanks to social networks I can say that this changed completely, it’s the other way around
and something immediate. Thanks to this, I can get to know
details of the person like their personality, their tastes,
family, and friends, and then with all that make up
a general idea of the person. Understanding that it’s more
than my first impression. My generation is tolerant, and multicultural, and has a lot of social
and environmental concerns. And this is powered up
by social networks. An example is what happened to me
with the girl on Instagram. I didn’t judge her for being trans.
That didn’t change my interest
in getting to know her, or her decision to show her reality. On the contrary, finding out
what I see in others, helps me to ask myself
what I am seeing in the world. After doing this kind of challenge
with my mom, I went back to some publications
that had caught my attention, like those that talked about
taking care of the environment. And I began to wonder what am I doing
to take care of the planet if I wanted to take care of it, and, if so, how am I going to do it.
While talking with my mom and eating my well-deserved cream pastry, we were wondering how these 30 seconds translate into our day-to-day meetings. That’s when I realized that this so different way
of getting to know others through social networks goes beyond the screens and is present
in my day-to-day encounters. My behavior in the “real” world,
so to speak, changed completely. When meeting with a person I don’t know I don’t look for a label to pigeonhole it.
I want to know more about them
in that first approach. I look for details, those I told you about
in the beginning. I ask about everything
without judging. And I ask them
for their username on social networks. Thank you. (Applause).
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