Change Your Life – One Tiny Step at a Time

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If you are like most people, there is a gap  between the person you are and the person you   wish to be. There are little things you think you  should do and big things you ought to achieve. From working out regularly, eating healthily,  learning a language, working on your novel,   reading more or simply actually doing  your hobby instead of browsing reddit. But it sometimes seems that to achieve  your goals, you have to become a different   person. Someone who is consistent, puts in  more effort, has discipline and willpower.   Maybe you have tried your hardest to be like  that. And it worked! For a while. Until you   find yourself slipping back into your old  ways. In the end, you always seem to fail.   And with every failed attempt, you become more  and more frustrated and annoyed with yourself. If you believe “success and hustle”  internet, it is all your own fault:   if you don’t succeed, you just didn’t want it  enough and the failure is all you. But change   is actually hard. And as with most things in  life, understanding why makes things easier. The Jungle Imagine your brain as a lush and  dense jungle. Moving through it,   say to make a decision to do something,  is like moving through an *actual* jungle:   It is hard and it costs energy.  Your brain hates expending energy,   so it came up with a trick: All your actions and  behaviors leave paths in the jungle of your brain. As you start doing something, you trample down  some plants and make rough, improvised trails   through the undergrowth. The more often you do  the thing, the more pronounced the trail becomes.   Over time it turns into a path that is  easier to tread, so you take it more often   and it turns into a street. As you repeat  doing the thing, over and over for years,   the street turns into a highway. Traversing it  becomes effortless, familiar and comfortable. The more pronounced your brain highways,  the more you get used to their comfort.   So we continue to use them, which means  we tend to do what we have always done.   This is why change is hard, especially as an adult   when your jungle is criss-crossed by  lots of established streets and highways.
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To understand how those highways are built  we need to distinguish between two things:   Routines and habits.
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The Things You Do: Routines and Habits A routine is a sequence of actions that you carry  out the same way every time because they’ve worked   out well for you. For example, you get the  same ingredients for your favorite dish and   cook them in a certain order, because you like  the taste of the result. Or before going to bed   you set an alarm at 6:30 because  this is when you want to get up.
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Imagine routines executed by a wise planner. It is  slow and analytical, responsible for strategizing   and mental calculations. The planner is  aware of the future and carefully considers   what kind of result you want. Based on that, it  chooses actions to achieve specific outcomes,   even if they are uncomfortable, like  taking a shower after getting up. Routines can eventually turn into  habits, which feel much easier   because they are basically a sequence of  actions carried out without thinking about them.   You have done them so often before that  your brain considers them rewarding   and a great response to a situation. So a  habit can feel like you’re on autopilot.   You don’t have to convince yourself to do  something that’s a habit – you just do it. The important thing about habits is  that they are set in motion by triggers,   context cues that can be single  things or entire situations,   that give your brain the signal  to start the behavior or action.
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You already have a lot of triggers in  your life: like when you see your phone,   you almost always unlock the screen. Or you reach  for the seat belt when you sit in a car. Or when   you buy your coffee before work, you also get a  cookie, even though you aren’t actually hungry.
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Habits are executed by an impulsive toddler.  It responds to your immediate desires, based   on what is around you. Without considering  any longer-term goals. For the toddler,   the future doesn’t exist and it hates hard work.  So when it notices a trigger, it steers you to   take this easy road inside your brain that leads  to a familiar rewarding result. If you get coffee,   the toddler also wants the cookie, just  because that’s what you do every morning.
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​This rewarding feeling is also how most of  your bad habits started: chocolate is tasty,   browsing reddit is occasionally  mildly entertaining.   This is why you repeat these actions,  even if they are bad for you.   Rewarding feelings associated with an action  demand to be repeated and so a bad habit is born. While the toddler sounds like  a built-in sabotage mechanism,   it is as important as the wise planner and  actually they work together most of the time! You need your wise planner for thinking big  thoughts and parallel parking and doing your   taxes. But letting your wise planner do everything  would cost too much energy. Outsourcing mundane   and repetitive tasks to habits, managed by  the toddler, allows your brain to easily   manage your daily life, while dealing with more  complex mental challenges at the same time. So if we want to change and introduce  a new behavior into our lives,   we can actually use these energy  saving mechanisms to make it easier. We will focus on small things, not big ones.   Improving your life a little is  so much better than aiming high   and changing nothing. Especially because small  changes can do a lot over months and years. How To Build a Habit If you want to make change easier,  the best way may not be to force   it with willpower but to convince your  brain that it’s not that big of a deal.   By creating new routines and then turning  them into habits. You want your wise planner   to construct that first trail and then use your  toddler to help initiate the action effortlessly. Let us say, you want to work out  to be fitter, a very common goal.   The first thing to do is to break down this  pretty vague goal into clear, separate actions,   because the idea is to make the action  itself as easy a threshold as possible:   so small it is manageable and so specific  that you don’t have to think about it a lot. For example, a tangible,  controllable action might be   “doing ten squats” every morning. So you  can start by trying to create a routine   but already include clear triggers  that the toddler can pick up later on.
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Remember, a trigger is nothing more than a  signal that you always associate with the action.   They can be visual pointers like seeing  a particular object, like your training   outfit. Or a certain time of day, or a designated  place like a nearby park – or even better, all of   these things combined. The important thing is that  you always start doing your action in a specific   context. This trigger is the start button that  will eventually set off the action automatically. So to establish a home workout habit with ten  squats to begin with, you could make sure to   always do them with your exercise gear on, at the  same place and time, like in your living room at   8am. Once you have your trigger and action,  all you need to do is repeat them regularly,   ideally every day. If you keep going, they  will change from a routine to a habit,   from a trail to a highway. Don’t get this wrong,  the squats will still take you energy to do – but   the decision to do them will feel much less like  a chore and more like a regular part of your day. While this is simple, it is not easy.
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Many things you want to turn into habits don’t  offer as much instant gratification as wasting   time on reddit. To make your new action easier  to repeat and more likely to be picked up by   the toddler, try to make it pleasurable.  Not necessarily by rewarding yourself   after you did it, but by making the action  or behavior itself more enjoyable. Like only   listening to your favorite podcast while  working out, or chipping away at your taxes   while you wait for civilization to load the next  round. You need to figure out what works for you. In principle, that’s it.
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Frustratingly simple, like most things you can  do to make your life better. How long it takes   for your toddler to take over and establish a  habit varies widely. It depends on the behavior   you are trying to get used to, what kind of person  you are, your stress levels and many more things.   It takes anything between 15 and 250  days until a new habit is kicked off   automatically by its trigger. You won’t  know how long it will take for you. Starting is the easy part,  especially in the first week or two.   Continuing to do it every day is the hard  part. But it does get easier as you keep going. There are no silver bullets for  change. But the science of habits   is a reminder that it is possible,  no matter how old or young you are.   Even if you only end up doing a little more good  stuff or a few new things, that’s still a success.   Being a little bit more healthy or knowledgable  is a million times better than being unhappy about   a thing and changing nothing. In the end,  change is a direction, not a destination.
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