10 Examples of What Gaslighting Sounds Like
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Gaslighting is a word that’s used a lot in the media these days, but what does gaslighting mean? The term originates from Patrick Hamilton’s original 1939 stage play Gaslight, where a husband psychologically manipulates his wife In the story.
The husband attempts to convince his wife that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment and insisting that she is mistaken.
Remembering things incorrectly, when she points out the changes, he makes The play’s title alludes to how the abusive husband, slowly dims the gaslights in their home.
While pretending nothing has changed to make his wife doubt her perceptions.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse.
Where someone leads you to question your reality, memory, or perceptions.
So here are 10 examples of what gaslighting can sound like As a disclaimer. We want to note that not everyone who says these phrases is automatically a gaslighter.
Gaslighting is intentional and a gaslighter knows exactly what they’re saying and what they’re doing One.
What did I do to you? If someone responds to you this way, they may genuinely not know what they have done and are asking you about it, But when it’s gaslighting, they are aware they have done something to hurt you and are pretending to play dumb In defensively.
Posing this question to you, they are denying the impact they had on you and are also forcing you to question it.
Two Everyone around you isn’t the problem.
The problem is you.
This is sometimes used as a way to shut down the conversation or dialogue for whatever is happening.
This type of language is often referred to as victim blaming where the gaslighter will make statements that cause you to feel like.
You are the problem, even when you have fallen victim to something such as bullying or abuse, and the situation is outside of your direct control.
Three, I’m. Sorry, you feel that way.
When someone’s hurt you, and says something like this then it is not a true apology.
Instead, it’s a way to make you feel like you are the problem.
They say that they’re, sorry that you feel the way you do rather than apologizing for what they’ve done or how they made it.
You feel Four.
I don’t remember saying that I think you made that up.
This is the go-to phrase that a gaslighter will use intentionally.
Get you to question your experience, behavior, and thoughts to take the focus off of them.
Five.
It’s your anxiety. That made me do the things I do.
This is a common response when a gaslighter gets called out for their behavior.
They use this as a reason to justify their negative behavior, when in fact they should take responsibility for their actions.
Instead of choosing to blame you Six, You need help.
This term is used to imply that you are the problem and that you need to address your issues rather than them having to work through their issues.
This is a shutdown response to avoid working things through with you: Seven, It’s, your fault, People who gaslight will neglect any responsibility for their actions or a situation.
Instead, they will directly blame others.
This can be a repetitive cycle where you may be made to feel like something is your fault, even if it isn’t, You may even apologize for things that aren’t your fault to make peace with them.
Eight, You’re too emotional.
This implies that your characteristics are seen as flaws, And this can make you question your sense of who you are Nine. It’s, not a big deal.
People who gaslight have a tendency to minimize the impact that something has on you They may make.
You feel, like you’re, making a bigger deal out of something when you are within your right to talk about things that are bothering you and express yourself openly.
10.
Why are you so defensive all the time You’re attacking me. This is a common phrase used when you challenge a gaslighter.
They tend to flip the conversation towards you and make it out like you are the one who is in the wrong by accusing you of being defensive and that you’re attacking them.
Then they become the victim.
Do any of these phrases sound familiar to you? These are only some of the things a gaslighter will say to you.
You may have heard these before or even said them yourself, but this does not necessarily mean you have been gaslighted or that you are a gaslighter Gaslighting is intentional and a gaslighter knows full well what they’re saying and what they are doing.
We encourage you to seek help or guidance if you suspect that gaslighting has played a role in your life. Please like and share this video if it helped you and you think it can help someone else too.
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